Discussion: We are 60 plus years old. My husband has chronic kidney disease for many years. We do not have sex; I am an attractive woman who still needs sex. I do not know what to do.

There is no reason to avoid sex; on the contrary, sex brings closer and improves communication and contact between the couple. The need for touch, sex, and sexual fantasies are not affected by chronic kidney disease; what is involved is sexual performance! Most couples refrain from having an honest and direct conversation on the subject, which only exacerbates the problem, so it is essential to have an expectation-coordination conversation. When the spouse's relationship is loving, accepting, and containing the healthy spouse can adapt to the sick spouse. The expectation of exciting and spontaneous sex is unrealistic. Men with chronic kidney diseases (especially in the urinary tract) often have erection difficulty, but sex, touch, hugging, and caressing should not be given up. Sex with patients with chronic illnesses is perhaps less exciting, but it can be full of love, no less than in young couples. Sex should be planned in a comfortable, quiet atmosphere and without stress. I highly recommend trying tantric sex that does not emphasize penetration but rather an emotional-energetic connection. It is worth internalizing that chronic kidney disease is not an incurable disease!

Links:
Chronic Kidney Disease (CKD), Including dialysis patients.
https://www.sf-healing.com/page/202 (Copy & Paste)

Improving sexual function In chronic patients and the disabled.
https://www.sf-healing.com/page/224 (Copy & Paste)