Discussion: We are a couple in their 50s after 20 years of marriage. Relationships deteriorated following the betrayals of both of us. We were thinking about trying the couples exchange, but we are unsure.

Couples' exchanges are seen by many as sexual openness, breaking conventions, and liberating sexuality. However, the couple's love and bond are also lost. Jealousy is a natural emotion of protection. If there is no jealousy, there is no love and no deep emotional connection. There is a good chance you will enjoy sex, but break up your marriage! There are other solutions recommended in the marital framework. They may be perceived as conservative and not progressive, but they preserve the spouse's intense feelings of love and romance.

Couples who share their sexual fantasies with their partner and try in an open and friendly way to fulfill their shared fantasies (without the participation of others) enjoy sex more, and their marriage is better and more satisfying.