Discussion: I am 50 years old and married, and I suspect my husband has been cheating on me for a long time with his secretary. His phone is locked! He sleeps with me once a month with no foreplay. I do not sure I want to hire detectives.

Women usually have good intuition. (Better than that of men) There are many signs of an affair outside of marriage, dress, grooming, extracurricular work meetings, etc. It is enough that you go to your husband's office during working hours without prior notice. Take a good look, and you will know the answer, even without detectives. Regardless of your clarification, an honest conversation with your husband before you find out it is too late is advisable.