Discussion: I am a married woman, 40 plus years old. We have very little sex, usually once a month. The sex lasts a few minutes in bed. I need oral sex to reach orgasm. My husband is not trying to satisfy me.

Sex is, among other things, also a form of communication. The lack of sexual contact often indicates an emotional connection that needs improvement. Couples love each other, care for, and strive to satisfy their spouses. A loose sexual relationship between married couples is widespread but very emotionally distant and undesirable. Sex is usually a reflection of the whole relationship. It is often difficult to correct only sexual relationships in isolation from their emotional connection and communication. Your frustration is evident. I encourage you to initiate a calm, pre-planned conversation in a quiet and romantic place. The conversation may deteriorate into unexpected places, so you should prepare for several scenarios in advance.